Kells Priorities Exposed: 26 Inch Chrome Rims, Touch Screen Navigation, Pearl Paint Job.....Gas Light On
Instead of pointing out Bernie Mac's death, I'm going to celebrate his life instead. Born and raised on the south side of Chicago, Bernie had it tough. Bernie had numerous jobs such as a truck driver, furniture mover, UPS agent, etc. It wasn't until Bernie's mid 30s when he decided to take on comedy full time. Bernie's 1st big break was when Russel Simmons spotted his act and decided to put him on Def Comedy Jam (one of my all time favorite Def Comedy Jam performances). His performance on Def Comedy jam was definitely unique and immediately set him apart from his counterparts as a performer. His comedic satire mixed with his mid-western swagger brought him many movie roles including; Friday, The Playas Club, Life, Bad Santa, Ocean's 13, and Soulmen (unreleased with Issac Hayes - RIP) just to name a few. Bernie's career is just a reminder that success has no age limit. He continued to work towards something at the age where most men in his position would of quit and settled for less. A good man, and an even better legend. Rest in Peace Bernie Mac.
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Priorities are measured by one's personal decisions relating to level of importance (Steve+Webster = Swebster Dictionary). Priorities differ amongst people - that's what makes us unique. Some people value material possessions more than personal ambition. Some people value relationships more than self dignity. Some people value the general public perception, rather than their own opinion. You can learn a lot about a person just by monitoring their priorities. A mere glance at someone who will spend their last $100 on shoes rather than pay rent might show poor financial management. Another quick observation at a person who rather spend Sunday morning watching television instead of attending church might show a lack of spirituality. No matter how a person carries themselves, priorities will always shadow a person's true colors.
And the award for most awkward body part goes to......Ms. Massive Knee Lady!
Gadget of the Month Award: The Torch Flashlight not only includes 100-watt halogen bulb which runs on a 14.4-volt rechargeable battery, but it also scrambles eggs (video).
Cassie step aside, I think I found my new lover.
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Added August 21, 2008 (via BlackBerry). I debated if I was going to show the video clip below for a couple of days simply because of how raw the footage is. However this post is about priorities, so how could I refuse? It's a clip shot a couple of months ago with Phil's grandmother, Phil, Matt, Angelo, and I having a debate about women and their priorities. The clip gets interesting because we all have a different opinions, not to mention there's a big gallon of Don Julio involved. Check it out ASAP because I might remove the clip.
The video is kind of sketchy, and hard to follow at times. So below is a timeline of our conversation.
0:01 - The attraction women have on celebrities, and how priorities play a major role in their obsession.
0:54 - I talk about how women tend to settle for less after they've been done wrong countless times. It's what I like to call "taking the easy way out."
1:16 - Phil questions the sincerity of women as well as their history, and realizes dating any woman is considered a "busted investment." As always Phil explains why it's more important to choose money over women.
2:05 - Matt, and I explain to Grandma why we consider most encounters/relationships with women "investments." I use previous examples to prove my point.
2:30 - Phil explains to Grandma how powerful material possessions are in our society vs when she was growing up. Grandma vehemently disagrees.
3:00 - Angelo points out how experienced Phil is with women. (OF ALL AGES I MIGHT ADD)
3:35 - I bring up how Phil is the 1st person I know to get his "car keyed" at the tender age of 16 by his girlfriend at the time. (His father always used to joke with us in high school that we had relationship issues that most people don't encounter until their mid 30s.)
Final Thought: Back to priorities. Often I'm considered selfish because I prioritize my agenda in accordance to my satisfaction. However the minute I fall to some modern trend, or put all meaningful things to the side just to seek some one's approval I'm considered normal. I find that observation quite disturbing. It's like I'm living in a world full of robots at times. No uniqueness amongst the crowd. Sad....but true.
posted by Steve Kells at
2:03 PM
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They rocked Bernie's funeral. It was many ups & downs but many people came out and showed him love. It was NBA stars there and I'm sure many actors was there also. It just bugged me out to see Juwan Howard, Don Cheadle and Jesse Jackson all politickin' breaking bread. That was something nice to see out of the respect of Bernie.
Priorities is a strategy. You have to balance and do what's right and sometimes sacrifice. People don't understand the value as far saving their last $100 for rent on some shoes. Sometimes a loss may have to be taken into consideration.
Final Thought: Failure brings character. Success brings enemies.
Very true final thought Lo and Kells...
I know entirely too many people with situations like the header. I've known some KA chicks with Chanel shoes, but don't have $10 for some Leona's.
Kells, Ms. Big Chin looks like she could also be Ms. Massive Knee, might wanna be careful when you smash it out-- you may lose your life. Then again, if that's what you were smashing out, you may consider killing yourself lol
Yo, I forgot all about that footage. If everybody listens to the conversation intently and follow the time line they could understand it. And women do have their priorities f'd up and its always easier to have sex with a woman who has a kid(s). I guess they feel they have baggage and tend to fall for guys because they are looking for love or someone to fill the spot of the father of their child(ren).
You know what else about women priorities, they always want to be the mother of some other dudes child. I come across women that always ask me "How's my baby doing" or "How's my step-daughter". This pisses me off because my daughter only have 1 mother & 1 father. Even though her moms might do it, I would never do such a thing and tell my daughter "This is like your second momma" or anything to that nature. -Women don't do either of these.
Referring to the video footage
I believe you have 3 types of Women:
• RATS (such as money hungry goldiggers, no type of priorities, car booties, hoes, Roca wear, apple bottom wearing & get rich tomorrow bitches etc.)
• Half potential (settling, accepts occasional bullshit so now she considers herself loyal or down, I claim I’m independent and don’t need a nigga for shit, shallow, no confidence, basically stradlers.
• That Refined woman: A woman like myself (confidence, you feel comfortable with, TRUST, stand by her man “NO MATTER WHAT”, morals & values, you can look to the FUTURE with, Priorities in CHECK (maybe overspend on an YSL bag and a pair of shoes: / but its ok cause love her) make you happy, consistent, make it through when all odds are against.) These ARE RARE GUYS……
Basically if you’re attracted to RATS then that’s whatca gonna get RATS….. With that said MEN choose WISELY……
IT’S so much talk about women’s priorities WHAT About MEN! WHAT DO THEY BRING TO THE Table? Just like every woman isn’t the same every man isn’t either!!
I looking at this video and that first thing that comes to mind is " Bitch Bashing" and I Had to laugh because when women do what you men are doing you all say " we ain't all thet same" well that goes both ways. The caliber of men these days are tragic and I'm so sad because like most women and NBA players I have decided to date outside my race. Men stopped appreciating US wanting us to be ride or die chicks and taking their cheating asses back. And for what companionship. That shit is for the birds stop stuntin because that attracts those "poor investments" and upgrade your taste in woman because the woman you seek are not seeking you because like yuo all said "we had a lot of women" birds of a feather have a tendency to flock together.
If you don't like your flock maybe you should change courses. It's not all of us just the ones you go for. Ladies you feel me right??
You probably had a part in making some of those good girls bad. What Jay say? Right women use men because they feel bitter and used and they want to reciprocate their feelings. It is a cycle that you started.
We as a species need to learn how to love and respect each other best it has becaome our biggest downfall.
You couldn’t have said it better bf.... That's why you sometimes have to take a gamble.
GOOD GRACIOUS!!!!!
You see thats why I don't post right away because of comments like B.Marie's & Sandys P's.(LOL) First things first ladie's your opinions were dynamite, and I really mean it, you both had very valid points, and thats all im gonna say about that
FinalThought: My suspisions were correct it actually is three types of women. LMAO!!!
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Gotta comment on that one, but don't want to get into it too deep. First off, if you guys think that women are all about getting a man's money...then you are dating or "hitting" the wrong women. And if you are into a woman just to get into her pants then can you really be mad if all she wants is your money? It's all a trade off. Any relationship is an investment of time and/or money. Everyone should realize this and try to only invest so much into a bad investment. You never invest more than you can afford to lose and when you start losing too much it's time to cut your losses and learn from the lesson. Money can make any man look better, but so can a good personality. Sure, I prefer to date good lookin' men, but I have dated men that are not considered good looking, but because of the way they carry themselves and their conversation and who they are I have dated them anyways. Good looks can only get you so far for so long, you still gotta have something to back it up. I think I am going to stop my random thoughts there.
Before I address each of you individually I want to start off by saying although the comments made by myself (I can only speak for myself) in the video were definitely outlandish, these same comments represent a majority of the average young African American male in any given similar situation. The only reason why most of you might disagree is because most young men aren’t as passionate or forthcoming about their opinions when it comes to women…… in front of women. However a quick glance at any hip-hop music video or eavesdropping at any local barber shop could reveal similar opinions voiced on this video. I didn’t post this video based on the entertainment value alone, I posted this video in an attempt to broadcast the opinion of 4 young men in 4 different situations with 1 mindset. It’s imperative that these comments aren’t used as a judging mechanism but more of a learning resource.
BrittaniMarie - I think your attempt to classify women in 3 categories is a great strategy and learning tool for young men like myself, but I really have to question the accuracy. Perhaps it’s the fact that 2 categories seem a bit unbalanced.
Questioning what a man brings to the table might differ depending on who you ask. But it’s pretty simple when asking me. A man should always be his woman’s security blanket. It’s his job to learn her passions and constantly improve on himself to adjust to her. Material possessions and financial contributions are subsidiary – and shouldn’t be the deciding factor of a relationship. It’s so sad that it seems the complete opposite at times – but both genders are to blame for these problems.
Sandy P – I think you’re grossly misled on the purpose of the conversation featured in the video. There’s nothing further from the truth than labeling our conversation as “Bitch Bashing.” It’s evident within the first 20 seconds of the video the entire conversation is directed towards Phil’s Grandmother, not just an open discussion for 4 men to blast women. Phil’s Grandmother is often intrigued by our views from just about anything from substance abuse, to young women. In this case it was women’s priorities she was concerned with. Unfortunately I wasn’t able to record the very beginning of the conversation so without the knowledge of knowing that - there’s no way possible for you to determine our intentions. I apologize for not being as clear in the 1st place.
….However in terms of taste of women I have to strongly disagree. My options have never been limited when it comes to women. From Latin to Black, poor to rich, 1st year college students to professors at college - my taste of women have never come into question. Perhaps my experiences with women haven’t been the best because of my fluctuating level of respect over the years due to some questionable priorities – BUT…..and this is a BIG BUT…..my taste in women isn’t the issue here. With that said, I’m still happy about my progress thus far.
One more thing, I’ve dated outside my race several times. If you do plan on taking that route just remember every ethnicity has their own unique issues. But I’m sure you probably know that by now. Good luck Ms. P.
Matt – I’m very disappointed you didn’t voice your true opinion. You are probably the most intelligent person I’ve ever come across in our age bracket. It’s unfortunate when you make such a bland comment, especially when I know you have SO MUCH TO SAY. Get it together young man.
Anonymous – Not once in the video did we say “women are all about getting a man's money.” I think you’re taking a large amount of information and cramming it into one statement. That’s what we like to call…..”taking something out of context.”
However I do agree with what you said about good looks. I’m living and learning that every day. In my experiences - some of the most attractive girls I've dated have giving me hell, in contrast to others. It’s possible that they think I’ll put up with more because of their looks, but that’s not the truth at all.
In Conclusion - I’m the sole contributor to this website, therefore any content submitted I’m comfortable with discussing. I’m getting a lot of feedback offline about this video. Someone even asked me “why am I putting myself out there.” Well let me say – I’m not ashamed of how I feel. I’m VERY consistent with my opinions. I’m not going to blanket my opinion; instead I’m going to embrace it. If you don’t like it, or it makes you uncomfortable – then please run back to your MySpace pages. I’m sure Tom has something more creative going on over there.
I really appreciate the feedback, and I refuse to lock these comments. I have a feeling there’s a lot more to be said – so have fun guys.
As far as priorities go a "real" woman's priorties don't lie in money. I understand where your coming from because i have had friends that are all about that, and to be honest they are used up and still single. Most women want honesty, real unconditional love, and above all a deep sense of companinship. people these days don't know what a real reletionship is so they comment foolishly thinking the do. I liked the part with the grandma because she comes from a time where these things in a man still existed in abundance. Today reletionships are based on sex and what the other person can do for you and thats why their are alot of miserable, divorced, singles out there. And as far as dating when I said who you attract I didn't mean rich/poor, black/white, or old/young. The fact that you thought that further proves my point. When i said the type of women I acutually meant mentally. But like I said this is the problem with people now. And as far as the vid goes I think there should be a part two where the ladies get to voice the way they feel!!
WOOOOOOOW!!!
This was TRULY HALARIOUS!!!!
I've always said u fools need a damn reality show...
1st of all I'd like to say...Phils Granma...IS A G...I like her!!!!
I agreed w/ much of what was said , which is odd...
I agree w/ Phil 100% when he said that it no long matters what u look like if u have money...I personally think that Lil' Wayne looks like The Predator...I DON'T CARE how BIG his bank account is...NOTHING will change that!!!! But he isn't the only one...Rick Ross big ass...Flava Flav...& many more...I'm sorry I have high standards....I look a certian way so I can't be ashamed to take my man out during day time hours!!!
Busted Investment....hmmm! YES! there are MANY busted investments out there...BUT isn't not like men try to break outside of the box either...Most busted investments...look like they just came out of a video...& THAT'S what most men are attracted to, so they can't really blame anyone bt themselves! Be like me...run that history...by any means necessary...Lol
I for one am NOT interested in a man for his money...because other than sex, whatever a man can give me ...I can get on my own...There are plenty of guys that try to come at me...& I don't doubt that if I got w/ them....I wouldn't have to work another day in my life....but AGAIN...WHAT GOOD IS YOUR MONEY IF U LOOK LIKE A THING OFF OF ALIEN VS PREDETOR????
Don't get me wrong I'm not sayin u have to look like T.I... bt damn Look @ u then look @ me...does it match up??? NO!
Like I said, I do for me, I have a bad Coach habit, It's nothing to drop $300 on a new bag BUT believe I've NEVER asked a man I was w/ for a dime...
Not to be concited, but I'm Wife Material...notice I didn't say "Wifey" The Hoodrats can have that title...I'm a good woman & I know that When I'm w/ someone that's it...I am the epitome of loyal & my man NEVER has to worry about anything...So I know what I do & don't deserve...Lynda,"Taking the easy way out?" NEVER! =)
Okay I think I got everything out...lol
Final Thought: Not matter what happens...NEVER settle for less...Don't let the past jade u... I know this is cliche, but Everything does happen for a reason...So just learn from it & improve yourself for the next person that comes along!
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I think yall are so wrong about what yall said about the womens.
Lynda - Feels good to see someone of the female species actually make sense for a change.
Shawanda - Well said, you really nailed your point.
Do yall really think that about females? What about all the scandalous lies, cheating and conniving things about men actions? We do wanna guy with some money but money can't buy love. It only buys time and lies.
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